...to me! Oh and apparently it's Jay's birthday too. I am 28 today. Somehow I don't feel older than I did yesterday, or the day before. When I aged a few years after getting the letter that accompanied my b-day card from grandma. I can only hope she has put off writing oldest sister, because she has actually done nothing. Yes, it may be my birthday, but that does not make problems go away. Oldest was tired of getting dirty looks, snide remarks, and being yelled at. She tried to pretend nothing was wrong but it wasn't allowed. So she left, early, flew to her inlaws. Let me tell you, it takes a lot to piss her off. She lets alot go in one ear and out the other. When it goes this far with her, I know me and my other sisters, my kids, my nephews are not far behind. Jenny thinks grandma won't believe me, she'll only believe Angie. I don't know, the best I can do is send these things. There is enough in there that she will atleast question some things and not interfere. I swear if she gets a letter that makes her feel worse than she already does My children will be permanently removed from the sphere of influence of their grandfather. Only spite and malice would have motivated either my father or his bitch wife to try to get my grandmother involved. That was wrong. That only hurts grandma by association, as it's her son, and provokes her in trying to fix it, and hurts her more when she can't. Not only that, it has already hurt me, and my sisters. That was very stupid of them.
I told hubby last night. I showed him the letter. He couldn't find anything to say. He asked, are you going to send it. I think I have to. I haven't had much success in getting unbiased opinions. No offense RA, but you understand and have had some expirience with things like this, and Tina's stuff damn near mirrors mine. That makes them biased. I did get one spouting philisophical crap about forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't change the behavior. I've forgiven many times. It still happens, it still hurts me and those I love. Forgiveness is not what is needed here. Trashman is doing a WWTD...what would trashman do, but he hasn't been by yet, so I don't think I'll get an answer there. I did get some hits from the comment I left, but only one bothered to move through more than one post. People, the about me post is only the first one. More has happened since then. Please read the others. I need opinions and what would you do if you were faced with this. Just for a moment forget that you KNOW that your parents would never do this to you. Try the 'what if' thing.
Let me put it into context. The only thing I have actually done, as of yet, is remove myself from the presence of my father. I do not visit, no calls, he is not allowed at my home. My kids and hubby still go visit when he asks, which has been a total of 3 times since Jan. 1. He lied to my oldest sister so I had to tell her. Believe me, what happened to her was only icing on the cake. I knew I was next. Her behavior (which was to leave) did not, nor has it ever influenced me. Jenny knows because she was in contact with my father and the bitch he married has always been rude and mean to her, as has my father. I was feeling her out to see if she was told. Erica knew, she was there. They were rude and mean to her up until she was the only one left. Now the advantage to her is they have to be nice or they will have no one left. Each one of us has come to our decisions on our own.
That is all. Happy fucking birthday to me. |